Can you relate? Have you spent any time in a Frozen Spinning state?
You know that state… the one where your brain is spinning way out of control and ten million miles a minute but the rest of your body and being is frozen? You’re unable to think or do anything else. You’re not sure what to do, so you do nothing. You wait. Your life comes to a standstill.
You go through the motions of the rest of your life so that everyone else on the outside doesn’t realize what’s going on.
Some may call it overwhelm, but it’s really more than that. It’s extreme overwhelm.
You’re stuck. You can’t see a way out. You may not even be able to put into words what it is or why it’s happening.
I’ve actually spent days and even weeks in a frozen spinning state. It was hard for me to see because my ADD brain lived in a naturally spinning state. It was only after multiple days went by where I literally made zero progress on any of my intended plans and projects that I’d realize it wasn’t the normal spinning but something much worse.
When I finally realized what was going on, I’d use this simple trick to snap out of it.
But, before we get to the simple trick, let’s talk about what’s going on and what’s causing this frozen spinning state.
If you’re not very self-aware, uncovering this fear could be a difficult project. While it’s important to uncover it, you just need to start the process to get out of your frozen spinning state.
So, what’s the trick? …………………. TELL SOMEONE!
Seriously! Fear thrives in the dark. It wants you to sit there spinning out and doing nothing. That’s how it wins.
When you shine a light on fear – even if you don’t know its name – it will shrink. That’s because the shadow that the fear is casting is 10 times larger than the fear itself.
It’s amazing how quickly simply saying to another human being, “Hey, something’s not right. I’m struggling.”, will simply shift your perspective and knock you out of your spin.
I’ve actually felt a little foolish in the past and apologized for bothering my friend, coach, or whomever I reached out to, But I still do it and I still recommend it. Because you need the other person.
When you reach out to someone else, it forces your brain to look at the situation from their perspective and not the center of the vortex you’ve been stuck in. THAT’S what knocks the spinning off kilter causing it to stop.
Yes, you could learn the skill to create that perspective without involving another person, but that takes practice. I’ve not mastered it yet. Just reached out today to a couple friends because I was spinning about something.
Trying to do this work on your own is hard. You need people to act as mirrors, lightning rods, and walls to bounce things off of. But I also know people may struggle with having those people because relationships are hard and we’re always afraid to be judged by those we love the most.
If you’re spinning and you need someone to reach out to, feel free to reach out to me. I don’t judge. I’m happy to help you stop the spin. If you need more help after that, I know lots of great people who may be able to help you and I’ll be happy to introduce.